3 DIFFERENT TYPES OF BOUNDARIES 

Do you have issues when it comes to boundaries? In this episode, we have a guest speaker who has been a teacher, mentor, volunteer and board member of Christian Women’s Job Corporation of Tyler for 25 years. This is a ministry equipping women with job skills and life skills in a Christ-centered environment. We are honored to have the one and only Gay Brookshire on the podcast with us.

What are boundaries? 

Boundaries are your property line. They’re what define what is you and what isn’t you. Boundaries help us distinguish between what is and what isn’t. For example, you don’t mow your neighbors yard unless they’ve broken a leg and you’re doing something nice.

Boundaries are important because they keep you focused. They help to keep you focused on what is important. It’s hard to keep focused if you make your boundaries known or visible. Do your boundaries allow you to stay focused? 

There’s multiple types of boundaries and you can hear all of them in the podcast episode, but we’re going to dive into 3 of them in this blog post. 

BOUNDARY #1 – SKIN 

Your most basic boundary is your skin. It’s literally holding all of you together. If you didn’t have it, you’d be a puddle. Everybody has sin and so it’s super important to pay attention to how people treat that part of yourself. Your skin is your most basic boundary, take care of it. 

BOUNDARY #2 –  WORDS

Your words are also boundaries. You can use them, especially the word no, but also what you’re telling people because when you’re teaching people about your boundaries, you’re teaching them how to treat you. Truth is another boundary related to words. If you’re paying attention to the truths others are speaking about you, then you’re not hearing God’s truths over your life. Whenever you’re down on yourself, read your BIble and read the truth about God’s opinion of who you are 

Boundary #3 – TIME 

Time is a great boundary. Time away from something or someone who is causing stress/discomfort/over-stimulation is healthy. Sometimes just removing yourself from a situation and letting things settle down is a great boundary with time. Sometimes you can’t physically remove yourself from a situation so you can just pull yourself away and guard your heart. 

Just remember, that you’re not “broken” for no reason (ie: things that have happened) and the damage (injured boundaries) isn’t permanent. It can be fixed! 

What boundaries do you need to work on? Let us know by commenting below.

 Have you attempted to do the 75 hard challenge? or maybe you even completed it. We know that all challenges have their benefits, but this one seems to be super unsustainable, especially for women.

You’re probably super busy whether you work a 9 to 5, you’re a mama or just a busy entrepreneur in general. We know that keeping up with the 75 hard challenges can be super difficult. This is our invitation for you to do our Faithful 40 challenge.

What is the faithful 40 challenge?

It’s a 40 day checklist challenge to help you stay faithful with your habits into your spiritual life. 

What’s on the checklist?

#1 Do not snooze alarm + make bed + drink water + get ready

When your alarm goes off in the morning, you get out of bed, you throw off those sheets, you stand up and you start your day. Do not hit the snooze button and do not go back to bed. 

#2 Faithful Pages

Carve out time each day to dive into your Bible or devotional or a faith based personal development book. We don’t want to give you a timeframe, but do whatever fits your goal to create a goal around reading every single day then you wanna have 10 minutes of quiet time, so this could be intimate prayer visualization meditation whatever you do when your quiet time like it could be journaling. 

#3 Write 10 things you’re grateful for

Now you’re going to write 10 things that you’re grateful for we love prioritizing gratitude because it’s helping you find a good in your life and helping you to be present. It also shifts your psychological body to be in a more relaxed state of mind. 

Starting your day with with a grateful heart just set a time for a successful and joyful day because you’re looking at every little thing with gratitude.

#4 Pick + stick to a health + wellness routine

Pick and stick to health and wellness routine. We understand everyone has different physical goals, fitness, goals, and things like that but we want you to get really specific about what your health and wellness goals are in stick to it. This could be a simple as taking your supplements and vitamins, or having a green juice or shake. We’re just having Whole Foods or reducing the amount of sugar or gluten or caffeine or whatever it is you’re trying to stick to. Don’t overthink it just make sure that you can maintain it. 

#5 A random act of kindness

An act of kindness, random act of kindness once per day at the minimum you never know when you can literally flipped someone’s entire day and it’ll help you get out of your own head to.

#6 Stick to a budget / financial goal

Stick to a budget or a financial goal. For this one I want you to get really really, really really specific. Create a smart goal around your finances.

#7 One hour to a “‘God-sized” Dream

Spend one hour to a God-sized dream. I know it can get a little hard to make time for your dreams when you feel burnt out or you just don’t have enough time in the day to make the dream become a plan. So this is intentional 40 days of one hour to your God size dream.

#8 Move your body for 30 minutes

Move your body for 30 minutes at least every day.

#9 Don’t touch your vice

Whatever your vice is, for 40 days you’re not touching it. Break the habit whether it’s your nicotine pen, a glass of wine, social media – whatever it is.

#10 Practice the sabbath once a week (REST)

Choose a day out of the week (typically Sunday) to rest & reflect.

We pray you enjoy this challenge and want to do it well beyond 40 days. Be sure to join us inside the Soul Society Community.